Abstract

PACHECO, Belem Medina; GARCIA, Claudia Reyes  and  ZEPEDA, Tamara M. Villar. La confluencia en la relación de pareja como limitante para el crecimiento personal: una visión gestáltica. Rev. Mal-Estar Subj. [online]. 2009, vol.9, n.4, pp. 1103-1119. ISSN 1518-6148.

Confluence in the couple relationship as a limit for the personal growth. A Gestalt vision. Frequently, when someone decides to establish a couple relationship, this individual starts to worry more for the other person than for oneself, people worry more about the couple's needs to be satisfied while the own needs are left in a second place. Finally, the people are immersed in a not very satisfactory couple relationship, in which they are afraid to show the other person how they are in fact or what they wish, so the individuals end up depending, to a great extent, on the other person, to such a point that they cede the other person the responsibility of their own happiness. In this kind of relationships it is very difficult that someone gets to have enough confidence in the partner when there is the fear to abandonment and to loneliness. All this contributes to the existence of diverse problems in the population in general, whether they are physical, psychological or emotional; because human beings live each time less happily, due to the lack of satisfactory interpersonal relationships, in which the people feel understood and listened, and in which they can develop fully without existing the fear to rejection and to abandonment. On the other hand, the relationships based on the confluence seem to abound everywhere and in any culture or social stratum

Keywords : couple relation; confluence; codependency; personal growth; gestalt.

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